Lot of times I’m faced with questions from people on how to go about getting the life you desire. Recently a friend of mine has been getting out of a funky relationship when she posed a question out of the blue. The question was how to make sure this doesn’t happen again and that she doesn’t attract the same situation. I didn’t say anything in the moment. I thought about it for awhile and then it occurred to me that no matter what the problematic situation in one’s life (a broken relationship, wanting to lose weight, being burned out and feeling stuck, or whatever else you are struggling with), there is one common denominator in all of them. What is it? Our so called “problems“are created by one basic thing, which is letting go (abandoning) ourselves. I can tell you from my personal experience that whenever I let go of who I was, I struggled, and lots of problems and pain were created as a result. I have learned a great deal since. If this is something that you are having challenges with then read on. Here are 5 tips to get yourself back on track and live a better life as a result. Set Up A Support System As A Safety Net A support system is possibly the most important ingredient in reclaiming yourself back and in creating a life you desire. Most of us already have some support in place whether you realize it or not. However, when you are stepping into new territory, it is good to have a necessary support system in place to help guide you, cheer you on, and keep you on course. Most of the time people have a tendency to plunge into the challenges without taking the time to create the necessary safety net for themselves to ensure the success of the journey. You wouldn’t jump out of the plane without a parachute, would you? Acknowledge Your Stuff without Judgment Once you have a support system in place, you can go to town and explore what it is that is not up to par. You have to recognize and acknowledge the challenges in order to change them. Most people have a hard time, after they see what is not working, acknowledging the situation without either criticizing and/or placing blame on themselves or other people involved. In order to move forward in life, it is imperative you learn to see situations for the value they brought into your life so you can move forward. Learn To Let Go Safely By now you recognized and acknowledged the challenges. It is time to let them go and create a space for something new and better to come your way. Releasing old patterns and emotions around the situations you want to change can be scary--especially because we live in a society, where we are “emotionally challenged.” For the most part, we are taught to control and suppress our emotions because it isn’t appropriate to express and feel them. Since this is how most of us function, it is important when letting things go, to create safety and feelings that you are in control of your own process. Find New Ways Of Relating To Yourself This is where you replace what you let go. It is necessary to replace whatever you let go simply because if you don’t, over time you will find yourself recreating the same problem. There is a big likelihood that when you are faced with a situation and you don’t have a new way to deal with it, you end up following the old way of doing things, which takes you to the same place you have been before. Anchor Your New Ways Into Your Day-To-Day Practice You have heard the expression that we are habitual beings, haven’t you? So have I. We experience the power of habits every day. To take the whole picture to the level where it makes a difference in your life, you have to form a habit out of your newly created way. It takes about a month to do that. I use reprogramming tools (essential oils, subliminal power program) to help the process. So there you have it. If you would like to know more about how to reclaim yourself back, please visit my web-site at liveyourlife.us or send me a quick e-mail to see how I can help. If you would like to use this article for your own e-zine, not a problem; however, you MUST include the following for the attribution block: Copyright © 2006 Erika Gombosova, Emotional Healing and Self-Discovery Coach, and LiveYourLife.us. Erika helps people process their emotional trauma in a safe environment, helping them to develop more energy, clarity, confidence, improve relationships with themselves and others, improve physical appearance, and help them to live life more fully. Learn more about Erika and Live Your Life, visit http://www.liveyourlife.us